Wednesday, April 18, 2012
There Is No Comparsion
"To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are," writes Sven Goran Eriksson. If we could only learn to be comfortable with the person God made us to be, we would not get distracted from becoming the best possible self we can be. Others can inspire us and challenge us, but we need to stay focused on our own goals. Jerry Jampolsky, renowned psychologist and one of the most inspirational people I read, writes, "When I find myself comparing myself to other people, I can now recognize that I am not only being unloving to myself, I am setting the other person up as my enemy. Admiring someone's abilities and aspiring to them as a positive role model is quite different from drawing comparisons and judging myself or the other person. As I look for and find everyone's uniqueness and support them where they are, I can also support and enhance myself."
Joel Osteen says that "when you celebrate others, God will celebrate you." Our job is to support other people in their success. This is not always easy. Sometimes we get jealous. Sometimes it doesn't seem fair that other people seem to get the breaks that we don't. However, each of us has talent. Each of us has something great in our person to be celebrated so we should hold our head high and be the best we can be.
The other day I saw a poster that said something like, "Don't aim to be perfect. Just aim to be better than you were yesterday." I am taking that to heart. I was in yoga class last night, and I couldn't do the poses perfectly or even as well as most of the people in the class, but I noticed that I was doing them better than I used to do them, and that I was feeling stronger than I used to feel.
This morning in spin class, I was listening to a song that said, "You probably think that you're cooler than me." Well, that is OK because I know my limits, and I also know there is nothing wrong with who I am. I don't have to measure up to anyone else's skill level. I am celebrating myself and I hope you are doing the same.
Light and Love,